Of course, comparing what I am to what I feel I ought to be (the Proverbs 31 model) leaves me feeling less than best.
This year, I found myself getting stressed out because I wanted to share a brilliant Mother's Day message to encourage you, but just couldn't get it together in time. I read a really great post over at my friend, Jody Hedlund, about being (or not being) a supermom. She's a gifted homeschooling, writing, supermom of 5, but here's a snippet of what she had to say:
- "When I really stop to think about all my friends, I realize each of them is a super-mom in their own unique way. We all have unique gifts and abilities. Each of us puts forth incredible amounts of effort and dedication to our talents."
I wanted to write a post as good as hers.
But I didn't.
And there’s this quote that I wanted to share:
- "Every good mother, sooner or later, must understand she is denied ownership; she is merely granted stewardship." T.D.Jakes
But I didn't.
Then I received that email with a great message worth sharing.
And I did.
Too often, I find myself clinging to the memories of my failures. I measure myself against Solomon’s description, that excellent wife whose noble doings surpass all other women, and I am found wanting.
It’s just too easy for me to go jogging down that memory lane. The enemy of our souls would have us settle there in that discouragement. He’s a bully, an intimidator. Peter calls him a roaring lion seeking whom he may devour. When I dwell in discouragement, I feel like a toy mouse batted around by a huge, hungry cat.
It’s then that I must flee the cat, dash to the Liontamer, and remember the truth - he is a ravenous lion, but one with his teeth knocked out! He is already a defeated foe. When James says to resist the devil and he will flee from you, he first says to humble yourself before the Lord. Only by recognizing who we are in Christ can we stand firm to resist the devil. Never can we do this in our own strength.
Just as the enemy used Scripture to tempt Jesus in the desert, He can do that to me with parts of Proverbs 31, that portrayal of a true “supermom”. But Scripture is balanced, even Proverbs 31. Here’s the comment I left after reading Jody’s supermom post:
- People who have called me a "supermom" are those who have seen just a sliver of who I really am, the outside busy part. You are so right when you say each mom has their own gifts and talents that others admire. Sadly, too often we see our failings and admire others’ gifts and talents as more valuable than our own. The only thing that really makes us super is the Maker who made us. Solomon sums it up best: "Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; BUT A WOMAN WHO FEARS THE LORD IS TO BE PRAISED!”